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To have a proper relationship [with others] {January 20th, 2002}
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Essay 14: To have a proper relationship [with others] {January 20th, 2002}
There were many gatherings during the end of the year along with Christmas. Often, family and friends gather around to recall good memories, and in work often, workers all gather to have a reflection upon their year of work and such. Lost connections with friends for long time are reconnected through phone calls or Christmas cards.
During our youthful days, many hours and hours are spent to achieve the highest rank in school, work, money, power, beauty and success. But as we age, all those start to become meaningless. There is a saying, “Do not ask about in the 40s: education, 50s: beauty, 60s: wealth, 70s: the health, and in the 80s: life and death.”
Like said, as we age, the things we hold so dear in our past becomes less and less. When all of those above mentioned things fail, we look back and see if our relationships with people around us is wealthy or not?
As we are the pastors and leaders, greeting upon the Christmas and the New Years, we look and check to see if we are having a proper relationship with God. If the vertical relationship fails, so will the horizontal. What is as pastor’s decision in their relationship with others?
The Nazi Germans had the worst punishment of starving the prisoners. Most of the prisoners would try to share their bread with starving members, but they knew it was difficult task. Turns out oddly enough, those who shared their bread never died from malnutrition, rather they had survived the war and got their freedom. Those who neglected to share were the ones who had died from malnutrition instead.
Stanford Medical School research team conducted a research and saw that in cancer patients, those who care for their own lives only for 18.9 months, but those patients who help each other, lives around 36.6 months, double the amount! It is to note that those who help each other and have great relationships would have a lasting impression and blessing to others around themselves.
Everyone has what is known as “tunnel vision”. It is a view of their own world in human relationships, and used to justify in their own selfish ways using that filter. To overcome this problem, there are few things I will be writing down to check ourselves again. I read something from a book that I really liked, and wrote on the first page of my daily planner. I would like to share this with other pastors.
The four tests of the things we think say or do:
1. Is it the truth?
2. Is it fair to all concerns?
3. Will it build good will and better friendship?
4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
With all that, I will add one more item In order that every one of our pastors would better in their relationship with other.
“Will this bring glory to God?”
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To have a proper relationship [with others] {January 20th, 2002}